
(This is a petition letter I created on www.change.org last October. Please consider going to www.change.org and supporting this action. It will send the producers of the Dr. Phil Show a letter, asking them to apologize to the members and guests from the Cherokee Nation who appeared on the show that day.)
In "Battle Over Baby Veronica" [October 18, 2012] Dr. Phil presented his TV audience a story about the adoption of a six-month-old Native American infant. The child's mother decided not to keep the child, and handed her over to adoption lawyers. However, she did not tell the father of the child that she planned on doing this.
Baby Veronica landed in the arms of Matthew and Melanie, (aka "Adoptive Couple") a non-native family. Of course, they appear to have been a wonderful family, but they rebelled when the birth father of the girl learned that he had a daughter and petitioned the courts for custody.
Mothers and fathers alike have rights. This situation would not have happened if the mother had told the father of the child that he was in fact, a father. It is clear that she acted out of malice.
When the father, six months after the adoption, learned that he had a daughter, he petitioned tribal courts in his community for custody of the child. And who doesn't support that decision, on his part? Well, lots of white people, who feel that as Americans they know better and can provide a better home for a child than a First Nation parent can. It is blatant racism. If someone had done this and a black child, or an asian child were at the center of the controversy, it would never have made any news at all, except to fine the mother for her failure to notify her husband that she had given birth to their daughter, regardless of their relationship. Mothers have rights, but so do fathers.
The adoptive parents went on a crusade, landing a spot on the Dr. Phil show where the custody battle was played out, months after the father had already been deemed the natural parent, and had been granted custody of his child. He did so with the help of the tribal court.
The father was well-intentioned, and nothing could have prevented the courts from granting him custody, and they did. He had also served in the US military, in Operation Iraqi Freedom. But that was not the end of the story. The adoptive couple went to the courts, requesting that they keep the child. They got many like Dr. Phil and others on their side, playing the race card, the misandry card.
Even if family courts and tribal courts had not come to the father's defense, there would have been a show down because it is clear that many consider First Nation people second class citizens, and this is why I wrote this letter and petition on change.org.
The adoptive parents' petition failed and the courts uphed the previous decision on 24 August, 2012. It was just a month later that Dr. Phil invited these guests to berate the First Nation guests and members. More importantly, the Court also ruled that the Indian Child Welfare Act (ICWA) has the ability to "supersede" state adoption laws, according to a pressroom article on the Cherokee Nation website. [www.cherokee.org]. This decision angered many, who feel, or don't feel, can't sympathize, with or for First Nations and Native American communities.
I have taken time to rewrite this blog, making it shorter, hoping that people will go to www.change.org and click on the letter section which would send letters to the management at the Dr. Phil show, asking them to apologize. So far, I have received very few petitions, so I ask members of the public, please, help promote this. I do not have many friends and though I am a monk I do not have a huge email list, which, it appears, is imporant when sending a petition of this nature out.
Cases like this have grown increasingly more prominent in the media due to the presence of adoption agencies which can now intervene to protect the rights of Native American children. Also, so has the anger and the feeling of entitlement that many non-native Americans have. They simply believe that they are better qualified to take care of these children, but if they do adopt these children, they often turn them into household servants, farmhands, etc., and I have seen it myself, first-hand, because I was a foster child myself. The view that Mormons had of First Nations, more than a hundred years ago, is still prevalent in the minds of many Americans.
First Nation families should be happy the Indian Child Welfare Act (ICWA) was passed in 1978; it is by far one of the most important pieces of legislation that has helped protect Native American children.
According to statistics on the United States Department of Health & Human Services website it is clear that First Nation children "…were being removed from their homes and communities at a much higher rate than non-Native children." Again, it is clear that this would never happen to African American children, but it is acceptable, somehow, in their minds, to do this to First Nation children.
When viewing the Dr. Phil Show I saw that it was evident neither he nor his invited guests were pleased with the courts' decision the infant girl be returned to the care of her biological father. It should have been a done deal, but no. Not only did Dr. Phil use his show as a bully pulpit to decry the actions of the courts, but he also insulted and insulted two young First Nation boys who were on his show.
Dr. Phil and his producers were wrong to air this show, quite simple an emotional response to the Court's decision which did nothing to promote understanding about the many issues First Nation, aboriginal, and Native American communities deal with. The ICWA ruling, contrary to what Dr. Phil and his invited gueests thought were wrong and spiteful.
Troy Dunn, founder of the TV show "The Locator", where lost-loved ones are reunited with lost family members, was also asked by Dr. Phil to join in. Dunn, of course, gets paid exorbitant fees for his appearances, and his services are not free either, so he was more than happy to appear on the show.
The airing of this show was really a final opportunity for the disgruntled parties to rant and rave. Many nasty and inappropriate remarks were made and not once did I hear Dr. Phil address those issues. It was clear that the adoptive parents wanted to express their anger at the court's decision, which they had every right to do if they so wanted to, however, they chose not to appear on stage with the biological father, a very passive-agressive tactic that I was surprised D. Phil allowed. By refusing to sit on stage, they also snubbed Attorney Chrissi Ross Nimmo, also the Assistant Attorney General to the Cherokee Nation, and other prominent members of the Cherokee Nation.
One man, who had adopted two young First Nation boys, claimed his adopted sons were only "6.2 percent Indian". How he came up with these figures I don;t know, but what IS clear is that the show was Dr. Phil's Last Stand, and every guest who stood in opposition to the court's decision was going to get a chance to throw an axe, into the crowd, one way or another.
While guests continued to use divisive and sensational language, the "Adoptive Parents" claimed “The Child Welfare Act is destroying families,” [sic] and "tearing children" from the arms of their parents." These were rather inflammatory comments, and Dr. Phil stood by quietly, never stepping in as he often does, to correct these comments.
But those statements were inflammatory and also completely inaccurate: the truth is that the Indian Child Welfare Act seeks to protect the rights of Native American children by allowing the adoption priority "to be given in the order of the child's extended family, the child's tribe members, and then to Indian families in general."
The fact that the ICWA is a federal program also seemed to anger many of the guests, simply because they felt powerless, and their own states could no longer ignore the rights of indigenous peoples. Guests could no longer accuse the Native American communities of racism, which they felt they could do when decisions were being handed down by tribal courts which are now in a position to take corrective measures, when needed.
In a rather bizarre conversation, Dr. Phil assures Ms. Nimmo that the adoptive parents' decision to sit off-stage should not be taken "personally", but of course, Dr. Phil's denial of the obvious is even more insulting.
The reason I wrote the petition letter, however, is because of this particular incident. It involves the adoptive father of two other young First Nation boys. While talking about the squalor in which the two boys lived, on the reserve, prior to having been adopted by their father, Dr. Phil manages to get the two boys to describe their lives on the reserve, prior to having been adopted.
It's not a long conversation, and, in fact, they don't seem to have any pleasant memories at all. As a boy I grew up in a very poor family, the son of a lumberjack, and I made a whole world out of a babbly stream and rocks, so I find it hard to believe that these boys never had any fun at all. But again, the story is finely crafted to produce the story Dr. Phil wants us to hear.
But the boys do have an experience, though not a pleasant experience; and they recount having had to urinate in "paint buckets" — evidently there was no plumbing in the home. And Dr. Phil, right on cue, in a derisive and belittling tone, turned toward the boys and asked them,"Do you recall visiting the..reservation...and looking around...and was that of interest to you?"
The comment/question may sound harmless, but I tell you, it was not. The boy's look embarrassed, or shy, and they giggle, responding, "Not at all." And, as though on cue, or prompted by the "Applaud!" cards overhead, the audience gave the boys a round of applause.
Mr. Johnston certainly has no respect for Native American culture, and he does not care to educate them about their culture because he is ashamed of their culture. And certainly, he will teach them to be ashamed about their culture, too. And this is the very reason Tribal Courts exist, and why some parents should not be allowed to adopt First Nation children.
We all live very busy lives; and it often takes considerable time and effort to examine issues that do not directly affect us, but I hope that some of you will consider going to see the actual TV show, just so you can tap into the hatred that is in Dr. Phil's words and attitudes, clearly, he is not the caring, considerate man that I have always believed him to be. And I hope that some of you with connections (read long email lists) will sign the petition, sending many letters to the shows producers.
Dr. Phil has a responsibility, as a public figure, to speak the truth, and to help lift people out of suffering, and on this show, he clearly is sitting on the wrong team. His actions, his comments, and his viewpoint are scurrilous, giving us a glimpse of his "dark passenger".
Dr. Phil owes Judge Les Marston, Esq., Chrissi Ross Nimmo, and especially the two young First Nation guests on his show a sincere apology.
Again, if you are reading this on my blog, please consider surfing over to http://www.change.org and signing the petition. It will send a letter to the Dr. Phil Show's Production Staff
Letters may also be mailed directly to: The Dr. Phil Show, PO Box 1902, 5482 Wilshire Blvd., Los Angeles, CA, 90036
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